If I understand what you meant by that, then when you are not bluffing anymore, basically "yes, I want W, but if I don't have/get W now, that's okay, no big deal, MY world will not end", then you will be approaching where you need to be.
I know, easier said than done. oh, I know...
I thought of the movie "There's Something About Mary", and how before his date with Mary, the guy's friend advised him to "take care of his own needs" before the date, so that he would be using the "correct" brain and not ruin the date because he had s3x mode going...maybe try that before next dinner with W and S so you have an easier time of keeping to your plan??? I cannot verify if it works or not, I may or may not have tried it... lol ...
Do something awesome for you (and S if you have him this weekend)!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
