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Hi everyone - thanks for al the wonderful replies.

I was so knackered yesterday. by the end of the second day of working all day on the machines I was exhausted. I have got to start getting some more sleep!!

I was really surprised at all the responses after my post. It's funny - here I was thinking that all I was doing was to try not to spin out for my own sanity, and there you all were seeing how that was detachment. and then i was like - what, that's detachment - oh okay, that's all I have to do?

well, i'm not all that detached - still finding myself thinking about him a bit and where he's at, it's like the brain is wired to go there! but spent the whole day immediately saying an affirmation and forcing my focus onto something else - maybe that's why i was so tired!!

ng - thanks - i am reading your posts here and to others - and I love what you are writing about - it is helping me so much to move forward myself. I really feel that it is with everyone's help here that I can achieve any progress for myself - and the way you have been handling your pain recently is phenomenal. thank-you (((((((( ))))))))

vero - just to clarify - that was Brit's insight for sure - and one that it took me a few weeks to assimilate and actually use. i'm glad it helped you out. i think it's wonderful how everyone here manages to help each other find their way

Brit - yo, girl!! you calling me innocent?

yeah, i probably am!!

so how o you handle that whole thing with you h - about approval etc? just ignore it entirely? how do you respond when he says ow great it is that he left and look how happy you are? have you let him know directly that you were not happy with what was going on?

thanks for the encouragement - and your words always help me so much - it's like you are blazing the trail for the picnic sisters

ces - thanks for stopping by. happy to say that s and i had a wonderful time last night again - making a sheep!! don't ask - suffice to say that i jabbed my fingers so incessantly through the whole process, and let out an insanely funny squak every time (not intentional, apparently i squak when i jab my fingers repeatedly) which made s and i break into peals of laughter. fingers were fine and s was happy happy. made me feel warm, because he goes back to h today and i know i did a great job connecting with him this week. hope you are going to have a briliant day. have to come over and reply to your post later

thanks stubborn - hope i can sustain the ability to do this,

labug, ng, busting - i agree with al you write.

it is definitely an opportunity for me to grow here. i did have a pretty strong urge to call him and say things. but it was interesting for me to just stay stepped back and say - right, zig, you want to "fix" this , but guess what - you don't get to!! period

i can't keep going forward being right in my sitch. i've thought about it alot, these past few days, and a lot of my struggles with h over the years have been about both of us trying to be right.. for now, i am actually finding alot of peace in just saying- it's ok, i don't have to be right here. after all, what if HE is right? and is there anything wrong with him being right for a change?

figure-it-out - hi and thanks for your lovely post - it really touched me. I had no idea that there was anyone out there silently reading :), so your words came as a real surprise, and they warmed me greatly - I hope that things are better for you personally - i read your tag line. i will go find your thread - is it in a different forum?

and sweet busting - thank you - i love your hugs and your checking in on me. i am trying not to post on my thread during the day - odd i know!! how are you now today? well on the blanket? hugging you there, sweet girl