Dealing with Anger

[breakdownbill]

I think the best thing to do here is to try not to read into what she is saying, just take it at face value.

W - Hello Arsene how is it going? I don't think I can make it this morning. but I will be there as soon as possible. I'm sorry.

Sounds like she was running late

W - Daniel, I've got a gig tonight and I'm exhausted right now. Is it ok if I just rest this afternoon? Can you answer my sms please?

The main thing I see here is how in the course of 15 minutes, the situation changes. Between two texts 10 minutes apart, the story changes. Is this planned? Did events really changed? Was she lying to get out of coming around? Who knows?

This is the danger when you've lost trust in your partner, your mind wanders, we try to mind read & it's always the worst case scenario we imagine.

As hard as it is, this is what you need to stop worrying about. Nobody is accountable 24hrs a day for what they do or choose to do, worrying about what they are doing won't stop whatever it is they are actually doing.

You let them own their own actions and you try to protect yourself and your own well being by GALing and finding ways to stop yourself when your mind triggers these thoughts & feelings.

This is all part of still being emotionally attached, but this will get easier in time.

Bill