Hi, I think you are normal. Total betrayal, the abrupt ending of a long relationship [never mind whether 'healthy' or 'unhealthy] these things time a long time to recover from.
I am in touch with another LBS and we are both post 6 years after long [30year plus] marriages, and we still feel waves of emotion at times that we thought we were,or should be beyond.
It hard to be alone in a world of couples, it is hard to be a woman alone, it is tough to face all the issues we have to face alone.
Sadness, sorrow and depression are all normal emotions that we have to deal with - [clinical depression is something else], I am talking about the sorrowful sort.
The one thing I would suggest is taking up an enjoyable physical activity, like dancing, or trampolining that tones you and tires you. Those of us that have jobs where we live in our heads need to get out of them.
There is nothing wrong with you, but your sister who is probably emotionally immature, doesn't like the fact that you are unhappy. That is her problem. She is trying to make it yours
I believe strongly that life is an organic process, and we cannot force the healing process. All we can do is facilitate it, by kindness to ourselves, and focussing on what gives us pleasure, and we are good at.
Give yourself time and you will continue to become stronger. Ending a relationship that was going nowhere took a lot of courage and strength, and you are probably feeling worse about that than you care to admit . . . .
