Sorry but you know I have a lot of respect for both of you an your opinion, but I'll have to disagree with you guys on this.
Maybe I'm getting this wrong but I think Bill is worried about the financial aspect of things right now. Also, he doesn't think he's capable of going through this year of his studies while coping with divorce, the loss of his kids and the financial burden of moving out. Frankly, I don't blame him. He's doing everything he can to avoid this and this includes not making any waves.
We're told all the time to focus on ourselves. He is doing just that. He's not pursuing, he's not having R talks, he's not being clingy and he's trying to focus on his studies. I'm sure what's going on with his W might affect his self-worth, but no matter what one does, when an A (EA or PA) occurs, it is bound to affect your self-worth. He's actually doing what I wish i could do. Not wasting time and energy thinking about he OM.
Is what he's doing having a negative impact on his sitch? Maybe, I'm not sure but we've been told over and over again to try something and be patient until we see results, and then adapt. I think Bill feels comfortable with what he's doing now and he doesn't seem to be suffering from it so he's got the detachment to handle his sitch. IMO, that's good. In a month (or 90 days) he can always re-assess where he's at and how he feels about it, still no harm done, right?
Sorry, I know I'm a rookie at this but I'm reading this guys thread thinking he's doing ok. If he's not, I'm not sure I understand why and I would like to know (as he would I'm sure).
Thanks guy,
*sorry for referring to you in the third person on your own thread mate!!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
