Bklyn Still Here P2

[BklynMom]

I do not feel happy but I don't feel terrible. I feel like the truth may finally come out.

My h has claimed this is 100% about me being unreasonable maybe now he will slowly begin to see his part.

Yesterday was d3 4th birthday. Her party is next weekend so since her dad wasn't around yesterday, I am pretty sure he is on another trip, I didn't tell didn't tell her it was her birthday. She would have Asked for him all day.

Very sad

[job]

B,
I'm sorry he wasn't around for your d's birthday yesterday. Hopefully he will be there next weekend for the party.

Yes, the truth is slowly coming out. He has advised you that he's seeing someone...but I suspect the ow has been in the picture for a long time and he's been seeing her all along. He just felt the time had come to "out the situation". You may be feeling a little bit numb since you aren't feeling happy or terrible at the moment. I'm very sorry he did this just before the holiday and your d's birthday.

Yes, it is a very sad situation. He had it all and yet, he's got this need to seek out what he thinks he missed out on as a child/teenager.

Please take care of yourself and your little one. I do hope that the rest of the weekend is quiet and yet pleasant for you and your d.

[BklynMom]

Thanks for stopping by snodderly. The woman who my h refuses to name has been working with my h for several years. He sent baby gifts when d2 was born.

Last year just after the bomb I visited h at work with the girls - he invited us. The ow couldn't look me in the eye. I knew then. Only my h and ow believe it was not an affair last MaY because they were not physical everyone else knows it was inappropriate then too.

The reason I am not too upset is not a noble reason. I kind of feel like now this validates that I am right and he is wrong. I know this line of thinking is a trap.

But for now, atleast the next few days I am gonna live in the glory that this is more about him getting laid then me being a b!Tchy wife. The truth lies somewhere in-between - I will get there; ever so slowly.

[sayitaintso]

Sorry for the news BK, that had to have been tough to hear. I'm slowly figuring out that I may be dealing with something similar.

I know u will handle it to the best of your ability for u and your girls.

We'll get through this! Xx

[BklynMom]

I have been working on an email to my H regarding this weekend. What do you guys think

H,

The girls and I are so excited for D party. I can't believe she is 4. I didn't tell her it was her birthday the other day because I thought that would make her too sad. She keeps asking "when I wake up will it be my birthday" I tell her that it will be very soon.

I know however that Saturday may be awkward for you and I want you to be comfortable. First be assured that my parents and family are aware that everything should be as normal as possible. Don't worry that anyone will say anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. I have spoken to them.

I am so happy that Zeke and Grammy will be there to celebrate. D4- I know will be happy too.

Also be assured that my parents also will treat your parents as they always have. My parents have always admired them-and still do.

Please tell me if there is anything else I can do to make sure you are as comfortable as possible. I like you am really looking forward to this day. Don't worry the information you gave me last week will not affect me.

My mother or Babysitter will be at home friday night, what time should they expect you?


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what do you guys think

[job]

B,
You want to focus on your d's birthday party and who will be attending. The more you try to point out that you are trying to make him feel comfortable, the more he won't. You want this party to be a normal affair for your little girl. You want her father to be there, so keep to the party and if something should arise at the party, deal w/it then.

I would remove the following sentences:

Second Paragraph: "Don't worry that anyone will say anything that will make you feel uncomfortable. I have spoken to them."

Fourth Paragraph: Remove entirely.

Fifth Pargraph: remove: "Please tell me if there is anything else I can do to make sure you are as comfortable as possible. Don't worry the information y ou can me last week will not affect me."

Leave in: "I, like you, am really looking forward to this day.

You can leave in the last sentence if it's necessary.

[BklynMom]

Got it.

Thank you!!

[BklynMom]

H sent an email asking how the kids first day of school was. So I replied telling him how excited they both were. Then I sent the email above with the changes Snod suggested.

I feel sad that this is the relationship my children have with there father right now. They are little, they need him to be part of this stuff, not hear about via email every now and then.

The partnership we had when we were together and he was working, I was constantly sending pictures and texts so he could be a part of our day. Now he is like a fun uncle.

New topic

A progressive, hip woman friend was telling me about her friend who is dating a man who was previously married. The story as she told it continued that the GF has meet the kids and they hit it off great. They are totally buds. However the exW who is a B!tch refuses to even meet the new GF. exW must be crazy. Wont let the kids stay with xH for more then a day or two because she says they need a stable enviornment.

The story just got me thinking what a bad rap xW get. We are always a b!tch or crazy its the only thing they can say to justify what they are doing to there kids. These days I feel like its the xW that has become the wicked step mother.

2nd New Topic

I have always loved Amy Poelher and Will Arnett as a couple. They are about my age and have two boys similar age to my girls. When my H left I fantasized that Will & Amy would never split up like me & my H. Today I found out that they are splitting up. It made me sad yet somewhat reassured that I am not a complete degenerate.

[vera be fierce]

BKM, I was totally sad about AP & WA, too. And I kind of felt the same way you did in reaction.

[Crazyville]

BKM, don't worry about the exW label. There has always been a stereotype both ways and there are good and bad on both sides. You just need to be what you need to be and not worry about a label. People are going to think what they think regardless.