So we sat down and began having the awful talk. Not the R talk, but the money / budgeting talk. We mutually stink at that. So anyways, we've sort of worked through some of that. If anyone has good resources, feel free to share. And so of course money talk did lead to some R talk, including the email. I remained detached. I even agreed with her that we were good friends, previously with benefits ;), and that one of those benefits was my unconditional love. I told her I had detached from our M problem. She at times got a little reset eyed, but said she wasn't going to back down from this choice. She did admit that she can see previous good times. She even spoke of using different "lenses". So in short, we talked, I followed her lead, we are still in the such, but at least she knows I'm not to going to take all of her stuff. I'm hopeful this will get her to re-evaluate us; and if not I'm going to continue to improve myself with or without her (something I stated to her). We'll see what tomorrow brings. Off to read a book. Good night fellow DBers.
