Tomorrow is a New Day

[mamabird]

sometimes I do think he is trying to be such a jerk that I will pull the D trigger. I've thought that for quite a while. Because then he can be the ultimate victim. He tells everyone how horrible I am and then can say, can you believe how bad she is? Look at poor me. I am so wonderful and she left me. No one knows how bad he treats me. Everyone assumes he is wonderful to me and treats me like he treats other.

This sounds awfully familiar. At least our mutual friends know the sitch from my side. Before our bomb no one knew how badly my H treated me either. They were all shocked to hear it. He went on and on about all the wonderful things he did for me, but neglected to mention all the horrible things he said to me.

So frustrating, Inga. Stuck between b*tch and doormat. We're damned if we do, damned if we don't. Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." We need to try to remember that, always. At the end of the day, you gotta work from a place of self respect, because if he does leave, at least you'll still have that.