Hoping it's not too late

[MandyRwaw]

Of course. I will go do that now

[Just A Guy]

Thanks Mandy, I really wish I was in the position where W wanted to be physical at least a little. But I do not envy your sitch where the OW is concerned. Definitely glad I do not have that and that we share the house, bed and are still really good friends.

[MandyRwaw]

I am probably as envious of your home life, as you are of my s_x life

I am so tempted to ask H, given his new "freedom", if we can do something together OUTSIDE of the bedroom...go for a walk, take a drive, watch a movie - something "easy". I'm just too afraid of the answer...

[DaddyLongShanks]

Thanks Mandy, I really wish I was in the position where W wanted to be physical at least a little. But I do not envy your sitch where the OW is concerned. Definitely glad I do not have that and that we share the house, bed and are still really good friends.

Just A Guy,

I assume W is not being intimate with someone else or hasn't in some time...

[Just A Guy]

That's funny because I want to ask W if we can try being intimate again sometime to see if sparks fly. I am afraid of the answer and of the potential for no sparks.

Crazy how sitch's like this work.

[Just A Guy]

I also think from a guys perspective if you cut all ties of sex or physical affection you will get a posative reaction from him, at least you will get him asking the questions you are dying to answer. But cut the cord now before he settles into a routine of expecting "it" without having to make a decision.

[MandyRwaw]

I know, but it's so much FUN.

And it's our 'thing' - something we've done very well from the very beginning...and passion is one thing he didn't have with OW.

This is part of showing him what it could be like, if he could find his way to trust me again. I let a few hangups, along with my lack of trust in him, get in the way and that part of our R died.

I know you're right, it doesn't really help - though it is a great stress-reliever

[MrBond]

"and passion is one thing he didn't have with OW. "

Did he tell you that?

"This is part of showing him what it could be like,"

No it's false advertising. What you're going through is the initial rush. Do you think that he's going to believe that it's going to be like that in 3...5...20 years? Do you?

[MandyRwaw]

Yes, he told me it was the *only* thing missing from their R. It was something that worried him greatly, esp since it's a 'sign' of a rebound R when you'd rather just hold someone. That missing passion, along with her desire to be a mom, were two "red flags" for him.

And OK, maybe not every day like it has been, but the FUN should be there always. Yes, even in 20 years!

[Just A Guy]

<----- is wondering if I should get 50 shades of grey to read and see if W wants to read it after me. Lol