Your son needs somewhere to let his anger out. You seem to be it. There are things you would like to do and things you must do. Those boundaries are quite clear and you must do stick to them. Be consistent and let the rest work its way out.
I know how you feel. In a similar situation with my daughter. My son wanted to be at his mom's with OM so he could take a phone call from his mom tonight. Doesn't feel good. But it would feel worse if he wanted nothing to do with his mother and if he didn't accept her for what she is. I taught him that
My daughter is same way. She wants a relationship with her mother and needs a place to expel that anger. I'm it apparently.
Am I a bad person or a bad parent? Not by a long shot. Does it suck to be in that position with very little control over it? When I didn't ask for it? When I don't agree with it? Absolutely, but it's not the end of the story by a long shot
My one and only goal is to make sure the kids are ok physically and emotionally. I know I'll go to great lengths to ensure they are. Even at my cost. Because I'm their father and they deserve my best at any cost.
Keep focused on doing what needs to be done. Your son will figure it out at some point as he grows up emotionally. He sounds like he is trying and is frustrated by it. Of course. Makes a lot of sense in the situation. To me it does.
Hang in there and know you are not alone. It will work out as God intends it to and you just need to do your part.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
