Thanks for the support Brian. You're right, in fact H has said as much. He doesn't want the responsibility. Funny thing is, all throughout our marriage he didn't really have any. He could pretty much go to work, come home and that was it. Even THAT was too much responsibility???
And honestly, how attractive is that to you or any woman? I was like that in my marriage. Lord knows how thankful I am to have changed!
Originally Posted By: figure-it-out
I'm starting to feel that I don't even want to be a friend. Not the way he is now anyway. I've read so many times here "this is not the way a friend treats another friend" I'm starting to believe it. I've made too many excuses for his behavior these past 2 years and nothing is changing.
It's when you start feeling that way when you realize that you are/were holding on to a dream of what the marriage was at it's best. I'm not saying you don't love him, you probably always will in some capacity. But you don't deserve the way he is treating you and your children. The way he is now, he doesn't deserve the goodness you show him.
Originally Posted By: figure-it-out
My attitude is a work in progress and can change on a dime but I'm working on it. I want to be an example for my children and as sad as it sounds right now I don't want my D thinking it's OK to be treated this way or my S thinking it's OK to treat someone he loves this way.
I think you are doing a fantastic job with yourself and your kids. You are a VERY strong woman and can do anything you set your mind to. Your kids will see that and learn from you.
