Zig- It is a struggle and yes the DR and 37rules seem an odd approach to winning back your mate but it is helping me with rediscovering myself and GAL. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
37 rules are not "odd" once you figure out the NORMAL dynamics of someone who has left. This is normal stuff after you been doing it for a while, and alot of it is not a bad idea to implement even in a relationship that hasn't went bad.