Okay looks like it worked. Today I went to my new therapist who did not recognize me and introduced himself again to me. ( I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and just had one session) But after listening to me he said I should ask my husband, since he says he wants to work on the marriage, what exactly working on it means. Rather than telling me to just be patient. Today he was primping and fussing in the bathroom like he never has before. Told me he has a late meeting and then is working out. Based on some things I told the therapist he said my H may be seeing the ow again and perhaps has consulted a lawyer because H was asking me alot of details about my former marriage (in which I was cheated on) and H said maybe I shouldn't have divorce that one because he wanted back after a few months. It's a long story but there were other reasons for the demise of that marriage. The therapist wants me to ask h to come see him to "help the therapist help me" He asked me to do that last time and my H refuses. I said I'd try again. Therapist agreed that H was trying to control things and not very forthcoming about whats in his head. Seems that I come off as a bother to H. He is not being mean but still sort of aloof and not affectionate.
