So here's my story --

[Denver_2010]

I haven't clicked send yet.
I have stated this before. Would this be a repeat?
Also, my birthday is this coming monday. Our 9 yr anniversary is next Thursday. Do you think any of that is effecting her thought process? I know you can't mind read her, nor can I, but just to add those little facts too.

Oh, one more thing, in regards to the wording of "open marriage," her stance is that we are separated, and "whatever happens happens."

You're right, I can't mind read. So have no idea if it is affecting her thought process. Right now though, it really doesn't matter.

I think that you make that statement as an explanation as to why she shouldn't expect that things are just going to be hunky dory. You should make the statement and then follow through with what you have been doing.

"in regards to the wording of "open marriage," her stance is that we are separated, and "whatever happens happens.""

That is HER view of things. HER perspective. Are you okay with that? If NOT, all you are doing is making a declarative statement about your view of things. Your perspective. Stop letting her dictate to you how YOU should feel and how YOU should act.

That's what she is trying to do with her last statement to you. She is seeing that you are not just going along with her plan and she is wondering why. Next, my guess is that she will become angry because you aren't just going along with her plan.