Okay, right now your biggest problem is attraction. You've used and taken your W for granted for so long that she really has lost all attraction with you.
I agree with the others. Back off a little and show her the new you. The fact is that unlike many situations here, she has some real issues that she had to tolerate over years. When you're together, show her the new you and give her the space to appreciate it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.