Let me get this straight afa. She is seeing OM, doesn't want to be married to you, or live like an actual married couple, but she is concerned that the situation is weird and that you don't have an actual relationship????

Ummmm... am I missing something here??

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce