About the relationship he has w/his sons right now...it's going to be hit. As he travels through is journey, it is all about him. Further along, he will want to reconnect w/his sons. Most, if not all of them disconnect from their children, but there is always one child that they are extremely close to and I call that child the "pal" during the crisis. It will be the child that doesn't question or challenge him/her about what she is doing. Right now, the relationships can't be repaired...they will need to work that out at some point on their own...but in time, your h will begin to change his course just a little bit and may want to reconnect w/all of them. Let's hope and pray that your h is one of them that will do this.
Hang in there. Cry when you feel the need to...it's okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
