Tomorrow is a New Day

[hopefulinga]

Thank you, that is great advice. I know I go off the handle too easy, and those suggestions are wonderful and I can do them.

I honestly don't care what people think about me and you are right, those who know me know it is not true. I've had people tell me that H made me out to be horrible and once they got to know US better, they realized he was the problem.

I guess I've unknowingly set a boundary. This week, H has been late a few times. I've decided to go ahead and eat with D when it is ready. He is the one who said 730 was dinner time and now doesn't show. I will continue to eat when it is ready and leave the rest on the counter. I do feel there is some disrespect when he does not arrive at the time he designated for dinner.

I will work on the boundary of spending time with other people, or even exercising. That may be a harder nut to crack, but I have nothing to lose at this point.

I believe I still respect myself, but am beat down. And I'm sure H knows this and knows it is another way to control me. All the more reason to set the boundaries.