Stuckville...population 2.

[Harrier]

JTB.
Blunt? I'd expect nothing less from you (and I don't mean that in a bad way)

I was watching some kids show with my son and thought of you. One character started saying, "But..." The other character stopped him and said "Buts are for pooping."

To clarify when I was talking about the validation BS, I was referring the language of validation NOT the act. (I do think DB sometimes gets hung up on language too much) I saw that first hand with my son's illness. No one in my family just took the time to say to my wife. Hey, I know it must have been rough being far from your child and not knowing what was going on.


But more to the point. DB is a slippery concept. It doesn't always work and if it doesn't then people just shift how they wanted it to work. It's like losing weight. Some people say I want to loose 30-lbs. Say they only lose 15, but end up being healthier. They they shift their goals to "Hey, I'm healthier."
That may be true, but that wasn't your goal. it's rationalization pure and simple.

For those where DB does "work" they say see it worked. That's confirmation bias. You can't win and you can't lose with DB.

I have been read around on this recently and have come to the conclusion that DBs principles aren't earth shattering. There is a commonality across a number of different programs. There are some parts of DB I 10000% agree with, some parts I question, some parts I think are BS or downright dangerous. However, I have recently found something I think that will work with me.

I do like the community and do like the challenge, support, encourage, etc. And I do try to "play by the rules" here. I don't encourage people to do something that is clearly against the principles.

Your post really got me thinking...as always.