MrsD: Man doesn't it suck when the roller coaster changes direction so quickly? It seems like your appointment went well and then the phone calls come in and spin you the other direction.
Have you considered the 24 hour rule yet? Whenever you feel you need to call him wait 24 hours before you do so you can make sure you say what you want to? Obviously that can't be what you do if its something that must be adressed immediately but with something like what happened last night....why did you need to call him right away when you were still emotional?
I mean C was back with you by the time you found out right...and its not like he was going to be with him in the next 24 hours so obviously he wasn't going to bring her over and introduce him to her right away, so why not give yourself time to think things through?
I've had to make a point of doing it myself and its why I suggest it to you, I may come here and vent, or vent in my journal, but I wait a while until I get some feedback from others and most importantly until im not responding from an emotional place. Your response sounds just like a response I would make if I responded immediately....you were emotional, probably at least a little irrational, and somewhat demeaning. You didnt give him ANY credit for being a decent parent and just assumed that he would want to introduce her to C right away...he even told you as much when he said to 'give him more credit than that'.
Just a suggestion but if your like me and 'run on emotion' alot of the time then a real 180 that he and others will see will be for you to be much slower to 'pop off' and to spend more time formulating a rational response to things. I think response is the important part because and again im only going on what you've been telling so far but right now your reactionary, not responsive. That is what I am/was and am working incredibly hard not to be and the best way to change that is to give yourself some TIME to calm down before you respond.
