I appreciate the feedback. I agree that giving her space is very important. I feel like this is a critical time where she asked for me to come back to see how she would feel having me around. I have made it a point to not talk about or bring up any R conversations. As part of my 180's i let her be after we have dinner and put the kids to bed (I will either read in a seperate room or work out downstairs etc). I have read so many of the amazing posts by people who have experienced a similar situation and i have decided to just be her friend. Last night was a perfect example as we carpool to work together. She needed to stay late and asked if i could wait for her. I agreed and when we drove home she was very talkative. I listened intently (another of my 180's as before I was not always the best listener). I made sure to look her in the eye and give her my individed attention. She kept talking during dinner and I kept listening. I sat on the couch and she came following and asked if i wanted dessert and we both sat there as she continued to talk etc. I could have easily tried to talk about R but i just reminded myself to be a friend. She was in a great mood and very receptive to my being there. It's times like these that make it hard as i want to just say "look, you are in such a great mood, why can't it just be like this moving forward" but I know that she will have her ups and downs. I just want to make sure I am doing the right things at the moment given my current situation of living under the same roof.
Thank you for sharing your advice and I look forward to updating all of you on how things progress.
