One thing you learned here is that OM does not think DS having his glasses is as important as you do. SO - if you want something done right - do it yourself. Take the glasses to son's school - don't ask him to do it.
Don't nitpick the things she is doing wrong with the kids - no parent is perfect. But document them. Just in case you need that info later.
It's not about keeping score - even if she plays that way. It takes 2 to Tango.
Letting some of it GO is better. If she doesn't think she is pulling your strings - she will drop them eventually.
But stick to your guns on the really important stuff - like custody. This is the most important. Keep the rest of it business. And keep your opinions (about her and OM's behaviour) to yourself. From the kids I mean. I think they must feel like they're in a terrible Tug Of War.
