I don't care if you have one toe or you're whole body off the blanket I think you've adopted a mindset that allows you to be detached and centered! Like Grace said such huge growth for you!!!
There were so many individual things in your post that could have spun you in circles and overtaken your thoughts. And you didn't let them overwhelm or upset you! So proud of you!
H does that too.....wants to know if I'm okay with things and wants my approval. Earlier in my sitch I may have thought this meant we still had a connection, he valued my opinion, he looked to me for emotional reassurance. I don't see it that way now. I do think he feels nervous about his new R in the way your H feels nervous about a R that began as an affair. And in their heads they know that normal rational people will say "isn't that too soon?" or wonder immediately how you're dealing with it. So it's if they tell themselves that you're okay, the two of you are still friends, the D is amicable, then they don't feel guilty or it lessens their guilt and reassures them that the divorce and new R are all good things. I'n so happy to know that when I tell my friends that I'm met mr amazing (whenever that happens) I will feel confident enough inside in my decision that I won't need any one else's approval!
You are doing fantastic! I'm glad my words helped. Love you pretty girl!
