hi there stubborn - checking in to see where you are truly at tonight - are you centered grounded, as much as you can be? or are you feeling a bit edgy?

we're here to walk you through this. and frankly about your 180 to not spend time on the computer? my thoughts are that if you are spinning or having a hard time, it is much more beneficial to you to come on here and journal and post and calm down than to try and stick to that.

don't forget - from now on out - you are only doing what is good for stubborn.

treat w as you would any house guest - and even better treat her like you would a guest who was a friend of a friend. friendly, welcoming, polite, warm, but not someone you are going to tell your life story to

i like what j3b said to busting today - NOT cool and aloof, but warm and aloof.



from where you are standing, w has lost the right to anything more than that. she only gets it if she works for it.

what was finally the turning point for me in the last few weeks was to keep telling myself that i don't have to do anymore here - it's his turn to do the work for it. he may , he may not...

Feel that you are worthy of her working for your approval and affection.

So you are going to be just great - in fact i've got a very strong feeling that you are going to pull a busting on us here, and be totally awesome - and really astonish yourself.

in fact, right before you fall asleep - IMAGINE- for a few minutes how you think you should be - and then just be it!!

hey - come have some champagne - we're celebrating ng - and you're up next fer sure grin - woohoo, (excitedly jumping up and down) we are going to drink champagne every night for a while

{{{sd }}}
zig

ps hey btw - why stubborn? are you still stubborn??

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"