Thanks Breakdown. I left you a long response on my thread. Your insight is super helpful. I don't fully comprehend the effect that my breach of trust had on my H. I don't have those trust issues and I just am not capable of understanding it. Even when my X BF tried to get with my sister, we broke up, but it didn't hit me in that way.

My H does read but the only thing he's read in regards to R is "The Art of Loving" which IMO is impossible to get through and not helpful at all. You are right, he thinks he's being tough and pushing through when in reality I think he's not getting anywhere.

Oh well, as my good friend says, keep breathing...

And glad your W is coming around :-D


Me54, H53
M 23, T 25
S20, S18
BD: April 2024
Moved out: August 2024

Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.

"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page