If you are in a place where you are having these conversations with her, then I'd suggest that you merely validate her feelings. Don't offer and opinion or try to fix anything. Simply, "Yeah, I can understand that that would be tough." or something like that.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce