Been lurking on this website reading and taking all that I can apply to my sitch. It helped me tremendously thanks to all the vets and posters here.
My story is very similar to most of the sitchs here. I'm sorry were all here and going through the same pain.
My wife dropped the ILYBNILWY bomb on May 2011. I was devastated and was really blindsided. I thought our marriage was just like any couple, the normal ups and downs. But I was wrong, my wife felt unloved and lonely. She got in touch with friend from childhood and the connection grew to EA.
I find out the EA this year and I thought the EA is over. In the beginning I also did the wrong things like begging, pursuing and gifts. Until I read DR and finally focused on my kids and myself, I GAL. W noticed my changes. But seemed like the addiction with OM is extremely high. I busted her lying again. The OM is from another state and I discover he's here and confirmed they were together last night for dinner. She assured me nothing happened.
I think this EA is already turned to PA. I confronted W this morning and I told her this will not work if she keeps talking to OM. I'm done, I told her she should move out to sort out her feelings.
I will post more later. Any comments/suggestions will be great.
newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
