"When we last had an R talk 2 months ago I told her that I wasn't prepared to be part of any love triangle or open M and that we can't begin to work on our M while she is still dancing with the OM."
And what did she say about that?
"There was no direct ultimatum, I just stated I wanted no part of that - so I took all physical contact off the table."
I can see she's broken up about that.
"I'm not taking that as a reflection on me, I know I'm good in bed laugh"
I think this is where you're getting misguided. Your W has an "emotional" investment with this man. It doesn't matter if you're a god in bed, if your W doesn't feel any passion towards you then there is no attraction. What have you done about that?
"Before you bash me if it was an ultimatum I accept it was a weak one, but it's something I've kept my word on."
And again, what you told her wasn't an ultimatum. You bluffed her with something that she really didn't care about in the first place, so she didn't feel like she lost anything.
How are your regular interactions together? Do you go out alone with her, have dinners, etc.?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
