Divorced #4

[Mrs D]

MrsD,

First of all you do both these things for yourself. You don't NC someone. You NC because you need time on your own to figure things out without interference from S. NC might also help you detach. Detaching is defensive. It protects you form being hurt by his actions or words or even your own thoughts. When you are detached, you don't really get affected by what he does or says, it just bounces off of you because you decide not to take sorrow from him. It's a conscious choice.

That's the way I see it, Hope this helps.

Thanks Arsene - it does.