So when you say that you and your W aren't together, does that mean she moved out? When you stopped ML with her did you tell her it was because of the OM? What did you actually tell her?
I'll try and clarify a few things, I know it's not a straight forward separation.
We are still living together with the kids & still sharing the same bed.
When we last had an R talk 2 months ago I told her that I wasn't prepared to be part of any love triangle or open M and that we can't begin to work on our M while she is still dancing with the OM.
There was no direct ultimatum, I just stated I wanted no part of that - so I took all physical contact off the table.
In many ways I suppose we are still together, as in living together and the kids not knowing what is going on. I guess it's a secretive in home separation.
That's the best way I can explain it.
It's had no impact in terms of her stopping dancing with him, but I'm not taking that as a reflection on me, I know I'm good in bed
Before you bash me if it was an ultimatum I accept it was a weak one, but it's something I've kept my word on.
In my eyes we aren't together as husband and wife, whilst there is a 3rd party involved. I've stayed true to my vows & not pursued anything with anyone else, because I know it's wrong & it would just complicate things even more - which I know I don't need right now.
My sitch is what it is & this is where I'm at, I fully understand and accept that you would deal with it differently and I appreciate your advice, I'm just doing what I can.
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
