Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

Ok some more details. We are both 31. My anxiety started mostly right after we met but never became a daily occurrence until after we were married. The OM was the boyfriend and then fiancee of my wife's friend. They were together for 7 years and now he is using my wife as a rebound GF.

Talking to all of my friends and family about my anxiety was like one of the biggest weights off of my shoulders. I felt great. It was terrifying to do but it needed to happen. Since then I have been making efforts to get out of my box and not let anxiety control my life. But at the same time I have been learning that I actually have very little control over my life and have placed my faith back in God. Funny how we turn our backs on God when we think that every thing is peachy and then come running back when things don't work out. I have been struggling with that actually. I have told myself that I am not selfishly running back to Jesus just to get my wife back. I am trying to give control of my life back. Quite frankly I do not want nor deserve control of my life at this point, leave that up to someone else.

I have been making efforts to go hang out with friends. It is tough. Most if not all of my friends in this city I met through my wife. It is me hanging out with the couples that we used to hang out with. They are all so sympathetic and trying to be helpful. But they are also shunning my wife for what she is doing. So my wife feels that she has lost all of her friends too.

We go to counseling again next week. I don't think anything is going to change at this point, but I am still working on me in the meantime. I find it so frustrating that I can't find hardly any success stories on this website. I see a couple but come on. I understand that this is about getting me right, no matter what happens, but I sure would like my wife back...