MrsD: While I think its great to recognize what caused your problems b/c you don't want to repeat them, don't beat yourself up too much over it. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not guaranteed so lets make today the best we can.
I know that sounds like such an oversimplification of things, but its true....if we continue to live in the past then how can we expect our spouses, or ex-spouse in your case not to look back at the past as well. We've got to leave it behind because we're expecting them to leave it behind, otherwise what hope is there for ever reconciling?
