Dear Wen and being me Ya know I agree with you guys. I have a similar sitch. The ow in my case was a "good christian woman" who told my husband her husband had an affair so she divorced him. THEN she turns around and does the same thing! Which I mentioned to her in the text I sent when I found out in February. I got a "I'm truly sorry and take care of your husband and your children as you should" I told her to go reclaim her soul.
You are so right. How can they trust each other when both have gotten into the relationship through lies and deceit? There's a house of sand to build on!
I am still trying to hang in there with my h, but it's damn hard. Sometimes I wonder if he is still in contact with OW because he has gone back to behaving a bit like he did when I found out about the PA. We talk, sleep in the same bed but he is not affectionate. Anyway, I think that in future years these people will of course, be old and suffering from physical ailments or dementia etc. I don't think they are going to have that dream relationship once they really get to know each other. Then if they have any conscience at all they must live with the guilt over the utter destruction they have caused. In my sitch we are in our mid-fifties. My husband is going through a crappy MLC. I get the brunt of it and my S18 gets some of it.
I fight with depression also. It is lifting and I am doing better. So I know eventually one way or another, I will be okay. So will you guys. We are worth being treated better. We do know more than the OW about our H's. Reality will bite them in the ass.
I heard a song recently about having a love like Johnny and June which I don't like because it's about Johnny Cash and June Carter. He left his wife to be with her and I hate that.
