So - here is my question, because I really AM confused. Am I supposed to NC or am I just supposed to detach? Im getting conflicting things to do in this sitch. Bond and KD think I should detach, do the little things sparingly. Everyone else thinks I should just NC. I just want to do the right thing.
How are they different in your mind?
Honestly, you can't go completely NC with kids regardless. But personally, I think you need to keep it to kids only for a while. I don't think you have the self control yet to "do the little things sparingly." Focus on you, stop worrying about what he is thinking, doing, etc.
