I think what Arsene said captured alot of why I would drag my feet....it will give me the time needed to heal and at the same time it will force her to wait a bit and see if her mind changes....if she does, then great. If she doesn't, then what has been lost by waiting another 15 months to divorce? In my mind nothing is lost in that time b/c ill be doing exactly what I would hope to be doing if we were actually divorced....being a great dad, improving me and helping others.
Our divorce was final in 4 months. And to be honest, it took the divorce and for him to move on, I guess, for me to really take a look at the person I had lost, the life I took for granted - everything - to finally wake up and want to make the changes I should have been doing while in that waiting period of the divorce. I didnt want the divorce. But I was still very selfish and didnt want to make the changes I needed to. You guys know that I am trying my best to do the right things so that maybe one day we can have another try.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
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