IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[breakdownbill]

Just in the event that things go too far and you decide to drop the rope, you should have a plan "B". Do you have family/friends in the area who could take you and the kids in for a few months if things got out of control?

There are a few places I could stay with family and friends, but nowhere with the space for my kids. Being separated from my kids is the biggy for me, plus lots of advice from on here helped convince me that leaving my home (because of the children being young) was a bad move.

If things don't work out that's a reality I'm going to have to deal with, not having the kids live with me. For everything that has happened, I can't say that she isn't a good mum and no court would not grant her custody if it was disputed.

If things did get out of control & it was to the detriment of my kids I would probably move in with my sister or a friend for a bit.

We can still do things together as a family & have fun & talk about the kids and what's going on in our day to day. If anything our communication has improved so much over the last 7 months.

That side of our family life is pretty much still intact & all our issues are largely a secret to most family and friends.

So yeah I sort of have a back up plan, financially I don't (yet)but I'm getting there.

Thanks for the advice

Bill