Divorced #4

[Arsene]

I also know the comment to him that I was going to laugh when they failed didnt make him happy either. I cant take it back. It was very unlike the person that I am. ALL of this is unlike me. I am not the jealous, insecure person that I am portraying right now. I never have been. So why now?

Never email/text/call out of anger or impulse. Always run important stuff through here before sending it. I think I remember you promising you'd wait 24 hours before doing anything (or 2 X 12 hours). Stick with this rule. Chance are after 24 hours, you'll be thinking clearly.

The conversation tonight seemed to me and please tell me if you think not, but when the conversation turned to more of him moving on, and such after the CS question - it seemed as if he got flustered maybe and turned the conversation to C. Like hes still feeling things out even after I sent the text last night? C was outside playing - he said hed call later. Still hasnt called. Doesnt mean anything I know. But maybe he is still thinking things through? Just words for thought ...

Here you go again MrsD. Let it be. Don't worry about him for now. You don't need to let him know you're not done. Just stick with your plan (NC) and let him stew for a bit. No one thing is going to make him reconsider and no one thing is going to push him away forever. Stop reading into everything he says and does. You are driving yourself crazy. Let it be, for now.

Ok.... Im lost. I want him to think Im done. Even though Im not?

Thanks MrsD. This is my second belly laugh today. You absolutely hav to start reading your own stuff. I'll show how confused and (sorry) clingy you seem to be. Relax. Just let it be.

Listen! don't beat yourself up over this. Just pick yourself up and carry on. But this time, plan what you are going to do. Go through DR and figure out what you've done and what worked. Give yourself a long timeline to work with (I think you need a timeline) and then stick with the plan, tweaking when needed but DO NOT pursue again. Let him come to you, all the way this time.

Cheers girl!