I see where you're coming from mate. In the end, only you knows what your sitch is like and what you can and can't do.

Just in the event that things go too far and you decide to drop the rope, you should have a plan "B". Do you have family/friends in the area who could take you and the kids in for a few months if things got out of control?

Are there things you cold sell right now which could help you get a place of your own for a few months? The thing is, no matter what happens you don't need to file for divorce right away. A separation would send the same message. That you are done. Again, I know it's not what you want now but in never hurts to plan ahead mate.

Freshman Class of 2012

M-49
W-42
1D-10
T 10 YEARS
M 9 YEARS
EA/MLC 07/2010
Separation 28/05/2012
PA confirmed 31/07/12
W Asked for D 31/07/12
D on and off the table since then