IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[breakdownbill]

Hi Mr Bond - just seen your post.

I know how I am dealing with my sitch is not the way you would handle it, but I've got to be realistic and be consistent with what works for me.

My W and I are not together and because of her continuing contact with the OM (in whatever form), we can't be together, hence the decision to not have any physical contact.

I know that I have a particulary hard year coming up with my teacher training & I have to be realistic about what I'm able to cope with right now.

If I'm honest I don't know if the goal is to get back together with my W anymore, so much would need to change and the trust and respect issues alone, would require full commitment from both of us to overcome.

Once I have finished my course & have my 1st teaching job, I will be secure and independent, then I will play my hand, right now I don't have the means to back it up.

In the meantime things may change, but my focus will be on me and my kids - I'm not pursuing my W in any way whilst she carries on dancing with him.

I don't like it, but then I don't have to like it, I'm putting up with it to secure my end goal which probably won't end up in R with my W.

Getting into this with my W right now, won't acheive anything positive for me or my kids, right or wrong I'm going to wait.

Bill