I am having a funny week. I just want to be somewhere, anywhere else. I don't want to have to deal with all this stuff.
STBXH is back today. And seeing him just makes me so sad. I miss the old us. And seems to have moved on to OW so easily. And I'm just some sort of annoyance to him.
OW posted some cryptic pink sign comment on her alt page that said: "Someone else is happy with less than what you have". And her comment on it was: "Be grateful... Ungrateful people, eventually they lose what they take for granted, what they don't appreciate" (sic)
So in her opinion I wasn't grateful enough for all he gave me. So it is ok for her to take it from me?
I am really angered by her acting like I asked for more and more and that I didn't appreciate what I did have. He and I were a team for 33 years. We went away to college together, joined the air force together, and built our lives together. Remodeled every house we ever lived in, together. And took our money and carefully built it up.
We also sailed that boat from San Francisco to Hawaii together. I have always been a fully cooperating, hard working part of the team. My mother and sister both feel like I have taken my wants and desires and put them aside to always let him have what he wanted.
Like the old RV, the jeeps, the motorcycles, the new RV, the little boat, the trawler, the jet ski, the mountain bikes, the other jet ski, the catamaran, and me having planned and executed every trip or move we ever made.
So anyway, my take on the pink sign that says: "Someone else is happy with less than what you have" is this: Yep, she had better be, because I'm getting half. So she will never get the whole that was he and I.
So I'm glad to hear she will be happy with less. And wish I could be a fly on the wall when she figures out that she can stand on her head and spit out gold nuggets and he probably won't be happy. But that is okay, I'm tired of chasing his dreams.
He wanted to sail around the world with me. I wonder what hair-brained plans he is making with her? He was talking RV, again, to me on one of his laps between us. So maybe that will be the dream.
Just thinking and venting by typing, it makes no difference to me. I'm living my own dream from now on.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Good grief, these OW sometimes make me laugh, especially the kind that thought they won something away from you. And when I say laugh, it's more like a maniacal one with my eyes rolling. They think they can do a better "job"? Good luck! They're getting the broken husbands who threw away not only their family, but the dreams they had for the future of their M's. They get the worse half of our H's, the MLC one's, and the one's that won't have the money they thought he would have. My H and I were also a team, I thought. So much for that. He also got his "toys", while I got the moves because he wasn't happy in his job after a couple of years, and wanted to move on ... to more and more. I could've been happy staying in one place ... really ... even with less money.
So, Wendy, I'm with ya sistuh! Was OW never grateful for the M she lost? For her family that she built with her H that she broke when she betrayed a friend? What honor does she have? How can friends trust her, or even any future R? How can she trust your H, who betrayed his wife with her friend? What a fool she must be. Let's see where she is in 33 years time.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Dear Wen and being me Ya know I agree with you guys. I have a similar sitch. The ow in my case was a "good christian woman" who told my husband her husband had an affair so she divorced him. THEN she turns around and does the same thing! Which I mentioned to her in the text I sent when I found out in February. I got a "I'm truly sorry and take care of your husband and your children as you should" I told her to go reclaim her soul.
You are so right. How can they trust each other when both have gotten into the relationship through lies and deceit? There's a house of sand to build on!
I am still trying to hang in there with my h, but it's damn hard. Sometimes I wonder if he is still in contact with OW because he has gone back to behaving a bit like he did when I found out about the PA. We talk, sleep in the same bed but he is not affectionate. Anyway, I think that in future years these people will of course, be old and suffering from physical ailments or dementia etc. I don't think they are going to have that dream relationship once they really get to know each other. Then if they have any conscience at all they must live with the guilt over the utter destruction they have caused. In my sitch we are in our mid-fifties. My husband is going through a crappy MLC. I get the brunt of it and my S18 gets some of it.
I fight with depression also. It is lifting and I am doing better. So I know eventually one way or another, I will be okay. So will you guys. We are worth being treated better. We do know more than the OW about our H's. Reality will bite them in the ass.
I heard a song recently about having a love like Johnny and June which I don't like because it's about Johnny Cash and June Carter. He left his wife to be with her and I hate that.
Funny Rachael, I hated the movie "I Walk the Line" because it portrays his first wife as such a bitch. She wasn't. And he wrote that song, "I Walk the Line" for her, not his second wife. More of that MLC rewriting history stuff!
I'm not having a good day. The water is out on this area of the island. WHo knows how long it will take then to find and fix the break?
I was wide awake and pinging last night. Wanted to talk to STBX but knew it was futile. So I took an Ambien and slept through him getting up, getting ready and leaving. Probably the best plan, just ignore him as much as I can.
As far a the juevenille games on FB, whatever. I know the truth. And if OW wants to present my H as someone she used to know who she happened to fall in love with AFTER our divorce, good for her. 90% of her friends cannot be that stupid. And I was her friend on her page, with my very distinctive last name. So wow, what a coincidence, same last name.
ANy of them who are nosey can go look at my page and see hundreds of photos of all the fun family things we used to do. I haven't removed his photos from my page. Because that was how it was and I'm not going to rewrite history.
SHe (OW) puts really mean stuff up on her wall, then later goes back and removes it. Because if she left all the crazy comments u that she posted, she would scare away her friends.
So my big plan for today is to finish putting a binding on a quilt and a few other little things. Lots of handsewing!
I hope all my friends out there have a nice day.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Her friends shouldn't leave their husbands alone with her.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Dear Wen The truth will out. People will see eventually. She'll reveal her true self. Not that that helps but our h's may come to see that one day I hope.
