i've just recently been able to think like that for the first time - where I am not going to worry what my h thinks about anything - and that it is okay to feel that way.
you've put a lot of thought into the roommate issue. so stubborn - it occured to me - especially when you mentioned towards the end :
Fourth factor is that me kicking him out would be a black mark against me on P's scorecard. Yeah, I need to work through that.
that it's great that you are aware that you have to work through this issue. how about considering a list of goals towards that end. if your living situation is not satisfactory and you are influenced by P's opinion on it, there's a nice fat learning curve towards some new growth inherent in there.
you can approach it in 2 ways - after you decide. the goals you would need to achieve to learn to live with what you perceive as a difficult roommate or the goals you would pursue if you wanted to ask him to leave. both have good opportunities for you to practice new things for yourself
you sound on the whole as if you are in a much better place than a few weeks ago when we started the goals thread - there's a new more confident tone in your writing - and i'm so pleased for you
hope things are going well
((((((( )))))))) zig
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
