Isn't she GF not OW? I think continuing to think of her as OW confuses the situation, even in your mind, Mrs D.

If he is really trying to have a R with this woman, do you think your actions are bringing you closer to him or driving more of a wedge?

Try to put yourself in his shoes and her shoes. What would you think and feel?

This is not an affair, this is a man trying to move on after a D. A very different story.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss