Problem is that he's got the OW to fall back on and you haven't gotten his trust back yet. I still feel there's something there but you're going to let it take it's time. Again, start by doing small little family things here and there and then expand them.
Kind of like the current sitch I am in with OM! She knows I am not done, but now has someone to fill the void & give her that Euphoric feeling of what she was missing when I a blatant fool & disrespecting JackA$$ to her during last couple of years. Everyone has a breaking point, and I am no way in favor of my W finding and reaching out to OM this early when we aren't even D, but I can't say as I blame her for what a raging lunatic I was with projecting my unhappiness in life out on her, when she was never even the cause of my unhappiness.
My W tried her damnest to make things kosher & I am by no means suggesting that she hasn't made her mistakes, but I empathise & understand.
Not sure if this post makes sense, but I had taken a Xanax after another Roller Coaster ride I was stupid enough to join in on today.
God Speed Sister! I think our Freshman class will prevail if we support & keep each other humble/grounded.
