Carnac, I love your posts and you are right. I need to get back to that form of confidence. I need to be fun again. I need to be... me! I will go back and reread them. Thank you.
Carnac is exactly right! You put put in about 2-3 days of good detaching & whatnot, then let your emotions take back over control & start at square one. According my IC, over 15% of couple she see after D, end up reconciling after they work through the own issues & end up having a better R, because they get past the selfishness of what caused it & try to truly look at other persons perspective of things.
You have good moments & bad moments! And like I have stated to you many many times, you are way to hard on yourself! So what if in the World's eyes the piece of paper states that you are legally D. In God's eyes you are still M & you both made mistakes.
Give him the space he wants & work on that time to better your own PMA. Remember, you were the WAW first, then he tried, but the time you wanted him back, he gave up trying.
Unfortunately peoples perception of things sometimes becomes reality for awhile & take some healing time & separation to see clearly what it is they were missing on both sides of the fence!
Keep up the work Sister, Freshman class will persevere!
I have ridden that damn roller coaster for last few days, when all along I should have been waiting on the platform for the emotional cycle to come back full circle & make baby steps during the right moment.
Have you read "Love & Respect"? Great book about the viscious cycle of relationships etc. And how we need to get off that cycle first by validating each others opinions whether you disagree with them or not.
Sorry I rambled on this one, but I have always had Faith in all of us because we all want the ultimate goal of reconciling, but need to get our emotions in check. I have always had anxiety issues, which always contributed to my low self-esteem/confidence in the last few years.
Some situations are what they are & don't really need analyzing.
