playful affection is when H tells me, you're getting pretty dolled up to go to the beach. and I respond, it's so I get looked at (sounds better in spanish
H will ask, what are you plans today? Me: enjoy the weather, it's a beautiful hot day! (I used to hate the heat and he loves it!)
H will eat a muffin and say, I think I'm getting my muffin top back. Me: I never had a problem with your weight.
Sometimes I use the kids for this too. D1 will frown and I say, she looks just like you (in a happy playful way). BTW: my daughter looks EXACTLY like me but he loves to hear that she has his eyebrows!
Say whatever they like to hear that gets them in a good mood. You know your W well enough to know what gets her excited, build her self-esteem. Right now she feels like an awful person so just build on her self-esteem. It really makes a difference (it's gradual but I like to compare in terms of months, ex. 3mos he was soooo different!)
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
