MrsD: If you look back through your threads i think the positives will be obvious. I think you keep looking for that big aha moment. I had a friend who told me once he spent so much time trying to create and capture these big aha moments with his kids that he failed to recognize all of the small things they enjoyed and wanted more of from him. I think thats where you are, you fail to see the little things.....I think it would do you a world of good to go back through your threads....only the things that you have written and read them again and see what the positives were that you were noticing then, and then see if you can recognize when you scare him off.
You can't assure him you aren't going to leave, but you can assure him that you have really changed who you are. Unfortunately the only way to assure him of that is to truly be a different person for an EXTENDED period of time. It almost sounds to me as if he's looking to see if you can be trusted and maybe you don't show him who you were then, but you certainly show him someone he has no interest in now. The needy wanting woman didnt get him to begin with, why would that work now? Go back through your thread again...you were a cocky fun bartender right? How does the man that fell for that end up with the needy, clingy insecure person you are right now?
