denver, do you think it was your request to D that woke your W up?
"You asking for D woke me up to what I was doing. I realize that OM was just an escape for me." My W's words to me, June 2012.
So the answer to your question, is yes.
However, I had spent 18 months consistently showing her my changes and that our M would be different than it was before she left.
Originally Posted By: needgrace
do you think that not helping her file ended up being something that helped you and her R?
thank you suppo and denver!
Had I gone along with her request in December 2010 to jointly file for D, we would now be D'd. I guess that I can't say for sure that we would not have reconciled anyway, but I don't think that the odds of it happening would have been as good... and they were already pretty damn low (I gave myself a 10% chance of saving things in January 2011).
Hope that helps.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
