Denver said awhile back that it would also state that I am giving in & giving up on the M...So I am slightly confused???
I didn't quite say that suppo. I believe that I said that you should try and buy yourself as much time as possible. I think that I also posted the statement that I made to my W when she brought up the D word. I decided very early on that I would not help the process. That didn't mean that I wouldn't cooperate if she had filed and had me served, but I wasn't going to file jointly. I was going to go down fighting. That was my decision. And yes, I made that decision knowing that it would p!ss my W off, which it did. She accused me of continuing to try and control her by not helping. My response was that I could not control her decision, and that I could not stop her if she filed. But, again, I was not going to help.
IMO, you need to do what is right for YOU. Damn your W's reaction to it. There is no way around the fact that she is going to have angry reactions to some of your efforts. The hope is that, someday, she will see that everything that you are doing now was done in the fight for her and your M. If not, that probably means that you did not reconcile... and what will it matter?
Do what you determine is right for you... what you feel in your heart is the right thing.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
