IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[breakdownbill]

I get where you are coming from the 2 things being separate things. I'm talking about, where I would like to be giving that ultimatum, not because I think it will make me a better option, but more so I can back up my ultimatum and be independent if she chooses not to work on our M, I have the means to file and begin a new life single.

My W, will not discuss anything about the OM, so I don't know what is going on still.

You see my biggest worry is giving her an ultimatum and Not having the financial means to back it up, if it doesn't go my way.

But I agree continuing on this cycle is not good for either of us and waiting another 10 months to a year is probably not realistic, before we have this out.