Your sitch is simuliar to mine as well however H has not moved out but does talk about it. He's been having an EA/PA for several months. H says he has ended the PA but continues to communicate with OW via text, phone calls and FB. I recently found out that H & OW had dinner just a few days ago and was spotted by one of my neighbors. No evidence to really support he has ended the PA. (Believe 0% of what you hear and 50% of what you see). It's extremely tough and I've fallen off the wagon a couple times but I get back up and resume DB. Since I've been GAL and distancing myself, ((I)) feel much better about me. I want my H to stop communicating completely w/OW but I cannot control what he does but I can control me so I decided to do a few 180's and not ask about his R w/OW or our M, no more questions about his whereabouts, avoid calling and texting, not wear my emotions on my sleeve, not offer advice or suggestions on ending R w/OW or anything else (motherly syndrome), no more snooping (not healthy for me and doesn't change anything) I'm not so available to ML and I keep my pocketbook closed. Sometimes it's hard and I feel malnipulated when he's nice just to get what he wants such as an invoice drafted, bill paid or clarity on a job bid. This behavior makes me feel used and I do not want to be seen as his business partner but his W. Hopefully with me backing off, he will get an assistant to help with the secretarial aspects of his business. I can focus on me and at some point he will see some old and new qualities in me that he loves and not as the the care taker.
